If you hold something tightly, you kill it.And that's what fly traps do.As if you just allow it to settle on your hand and fly where it wants.Like a bird or a butterfly.It will come back and settle and then it's free to fly.So the hand needs to be an open hand.Gentle, open hand.It's about being free, but it's not about not being loving, actually.But you kill the love if you crush it.You can't do that to people.It's not love.That's possession.
